Dear Brothers and Sisters!

Marriage, which is the foundation of the family, has many benefits for the individual and society. First of all, marriage is a source of peace and love between spouses. Spouses share both their religion and their lives by completing each other through marriage. The Quran mentions, “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.’’[1] Marriage also protects the person from sins and various evil acts. This protection is expressed with the concept of chastity in the Qur’an and counted among the characteristics of the believers who attain salvation. Our Prophet (saw) was especially interested in the marriage life of young people and provided them with support. Rasulullah (saw) said, “Get married and multiply, because I will be proud of your multitude on the Day of Judgment.”[2] In another hadith he said: “O youth! Let those among you who can afford to marry, get married. Because getting married is the best way to protect the eyes from haram and to preserve chastity…”[3].

Dear Brothers and Sisters!

Establishing a peaceful home is only possible with right and halal steps. In the name of custom and tradition, we should avoid practices that will harm our sense of privacy and put our youth in financial and moral difficulties. Both engagement and wedding ceremonies should be measured and modest. Because our ceremonies are a manifestation of our sincerity towards our religion. We should not violate the halal of Islam with the excuse of ‘we have a wedding once in a lifetime’. We should support our children in establishing a peaceful home with the right steps, and do our best to facilitate marriage. The heavy burden of young people with marriage leads to domestic unrest in a short time. Young people, who are trying to have a warm home and a peaceful family, are under a heavy burden due to marriage and are in debt for this, causing them to lose their peace and face problems. We should be facilitators, not complicators, in these important steps of theirs. Because the Prophet (saw) said, “The best marriage is the easiest one.” [4] By marrying our children to someone who believes, abides by the standards of Islam and tries to live within the framework of Islam; We both protect them from falling into haram and gain the pleasure of Allah (swt) and our Prophet (saw) by helping them in a good marriage.

Dear Youth!

Your first criterion in choosing a spouse should be the beauty of faith and morality, not wealth, rank, position and apparent beauty. Look for peace and happiness in sincerity, respect and self-sacrifice. Do not go to extremes in engagement, wedding and ceremonies. You must set the right example for your future generations. Do not forget that you have a responsibility to your generation just as you have a responsibility to your spouse. You must make great sacrifices for them to be good and to live a life in line with Allah’s commands. At the same time, you must live a life in this direction. May Allah (swt) make us not one of those who go beyond the limits, but those who are satisfied with what is halal and those who establish a peaceful home with the right steps.

I would like to complete my khutba with the prayer of Ibrahim (as): “‘My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.’’[5] Ameen!

[1] Surah Ar-Rum 30:21

[2] Beyhakî, VII/81

[3] Buhârî, Nikâh, 3

[4] Ebu Davud, Nikah, 30-31

[5] Surah Ibrahim 14:40

Khutba – Establishing A Peaceful Home Correctly